“I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings and I don’t want people to be mad at me.”
Do you hear yourself thinking either of these thoughts at points in your day? I think of these as key indicators of People Pleasers. It sounds like such a good intention from the outside, not wanting to hurt feelings or make others mad, it sounds caring and like a good way to live.
But, here’s the deal, people pleasing is motivated by fear.