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Are You Repeating the Same Old Patterns? How to Stop!

Are You Repeating the Same Old Patterns? How to Stop!

Our mind is an interesting thing. When we are young our minds are in a completely different brainwave state than when we are adults.

So until about the age of 7 or 8 years old, we download all the things that are our experiences in life and this helps to shape our personality and understand all the stimuli of life that comes our way. If our minds didn’t work like this we would be like infants all of our lives, literally seeing things for the first time ALL the time and as you can imagine we would not be able to function as adults. This does not mean our minds are set in stone because of our previous programming. 

But if you are not aware of this phenomenon you might repeat realities from the past or unhealthily blame your parents or your current partners in relationships for “triggering you,” to respond in whatever way you are conditioned to do.

Find Your Flourish France 2015: Getting Out of a Rut!

Find Your Flourish France 2015: Getting Out of a Rut!

Guest post by Lisa Franzino! I am so honored that one of the ah-mazing women from the Find Your Flourish France Retreat 2015 took time out to share her experience! Thank you so much Lisa! Your passion for life and love touched us all...

Getting Out of a Rut!

In the summer of last year, I was feeling like I was in a serious rut. I had recently completed a Raw Chef training and knew I wanted to help people but I wasn’t sure how.  I was feeling very overwhelmed by my indecision and all of my options were creating a kind of paralysis. The invitation to join the Find your Flourish retreat in France came at just the right time. The week of the retreat along with some extra “me time” that bookended the trip allowed me to step out my own inner turmoil and get down to the basics of what I was/am really after: contentment, purpose, connection with others and confidence to do whatever I choose. 

Deciding to Retreat
The retreat was set in a comfortable villa perched atop the hills of Nice. All we needed was our clothes and personal affects and everything else was taken care of. That first evening, as the other women showed up, we all got to know each other. There was a nice group of strong, accomplished women — all on a similar path to find direction, connection and “flourish”! It was easy to see right away that we would form a deep connection with each other throughout the course of the retreat.  

Our days started off with a meditation, a delicious but light breakfast and then Tiffany led us in some Kundalini yoga exercises. Everyone was at a different level of fitness from yoga newbie to yoga teacher (I am a Bikram instructor) and the Kundalini was accessible and beneficial to us all. We then had “workshop” time where Tiffany facilitated a discussion around a theme and shared tools with us to help overcome, discover and unlock. These sessions were followed by an [at least] three course meal made by our own private chef, Magali. The afternoons were filled with exploring the French Riviera and the evenings with more delicious food, conversation and bonding with our new fast friends.

The 9 Essential Steps to Making Your Dreams a Reality

9 Essential Tips to Making Your Dreams a Reality

Your dreams matter! Watch this video and find out how goal setting can help you turn your dreams into a reality.

For easy reference, I’ve listed the 9 tips again here:

  1. Write your goal, dreams and desire down! Get a special journal specifically for your dreams and goals. Sometimes it helps to organize your goals into life categories such as physical, spiritual, relational, intellectual, environmental, and occupational. Vision boards can serve as visual affirmations of your goals, and can be fun and get the creative juices flowing. The objective here is to get your dreams for yourself out of your mind and into something more concrete.
  2. Start to take small steps towards your big dreams. It really helps to break your goals up into manageable action steps. You may need to trouble shoot along the way, if something is not working. Don’t allow setbacks to stop you, try it differently.
  3. Start Right Away – even if you do just one thing to move you in the direction of your dreams. Small turtle steps go along way if you do one each day.
  4.  Prioritize your goals to help you stay focused. What is the most important dream you want to move towards right now? Get started on that one. Gain momentum, it helps to keep us motivated.
  5.  Pick an end date! This one is important. Choose the date you would like to make this dream a reality for yourself. It can be a long or short-term goal. You get to decide!
  6. Read over your list of goals at least 2 times a day. It is helpful to read them first thing when you wake up in the morning, and before you go to sleep at night. This helps your brain and memory to stay active and keeps these goals at the forefront of your mind, helping you to stay focused.
  7. Visualize yourself achieving your dream(s). Spend some time daydreaming about how your life will look, feel, sound, smell, and even taste like when you are living your dream.
  8. Live and act as if this goal or dream has already come true. If it seems to hard to do this all the time, try it out for a day. Experiment and see how wonderful it feels to take on that essence.
  9. Seek out professional help if you get stuck. All of us get stuck sometimes and it’s ok to allow others to help us move into more happiness. You deserve it. We all do. Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET) can be highly beneficial to help us get congruent with our goals.

 I can help you unblock your path and get congruent with your goals and dreams. Getting what you want can actually be scary sometimes, so let’s clear those fears away if need be, and get ready to accept what it is that you want in life.

Contact me HERE if you get stuck, and let’s set up a time for a free 20-minute phone consultation.

If you want to get a jumpstart on your manifesting your dreams come join me and an amazing group of women for the Find Your Flourish Retreat in the South of France, coming up September 27-October 3rd, 2015. Registration deadline is August 16, 2015. There are just a few spots left. You don't want to miss this retreat! Hurry and contact me here to set up an interview! Your dreams are awaiting you.  

Tiffany Goyer provides psychotherapy, counseling, coaching, retreats, and workshops from her base office in Sherman Oaks right in Los Angeles County. She also provides phone and Skype session to women around the globe. 

Follow Your Passions and Not your Fears

Follow Your Passions and Not your Fears

FOLLOW YOUR PASSIONS NOT YOUR FEARS
DO YOU INCORPORATE WHAT YOU LOVE INTO YOUR WORK?

My recent guest blog on Psych Central got me thinking that I needed to share these concepts with you too! Click here to read, or below.

It seems that too many of us are on the verge of burnout. But I bet we could remedy that with some large doses of self-care, and by incorporating more of what we are truly passionate about into our day-to-day work lives? This may take a little thinking outside of the box...which usually means facing our fears. I know because it did for me. 

LAST YEAR, I DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING PRETTY RADICAL. 

I started the Find Your Flourish Movement and Retreats for Women. I am blending my passions for talk therapy, coaching, yoga, breath work, meditation, Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET), and travel to help women transform their lives. This multi-faceted approach to my worklove (not a typo) has been invigorating because I am passionate in helping people on a mind-body-spirit level.

And, on September 27th, 2015, I have the immense honor and pleasure of taking a group of amazing women to the South of France for the Find Your Flourish France Retreat! A dream come true. If this sounds like fun, it's because it will be...why not join us? But I digress...