One thing I have been finding is the cause of a lot of stress for you all is clutter. This makes prefect sense since when you are a self proclaimed busyaholic there is no time for decluttering. Yet I know many of you strongly desire a streamlined life.
It’s a big question right? What do you want to use your life for?
When it comes to making more time in your life you really must answer this question for yourself.
The reason this is important is that when you know what you want to use your life for, you can live intentionally. What's the point in teaching you how to make more time in your life to make more money, have loving relationships and a lifestyle that rocks if you don’t know what to do with that extra time?
How often do you hear yourself say “I don’t know,” either out loud or in your head? So many of us do right? But it stops us from accessing the wisdom that you have within. When I heard the concept that we all have the answers within us, I felt annoyed 😠. I initially thought, if I had all the answers then my life would be easy. But having the answer doesn’t = easier. But it does = you having a pretty darn good shot at making your dreams a reality. Without the confusion, you can bask in the sunshine of clarity and not the clouds and thunderous storms of angst. It’s so easy to have all the right answers for everyone else right, your best friend, your partner, your family? So why's it so hard to do that same thing for yourself? Because confusion, the kind we’ve been indulging in for a long time, gets you stuck in a labyrinth of "I don’t know’s,” with no end goal in sight.
Are you flaking on your ambitious plans for yourself on the regular? If so you are probably experiencing what I like to call "all or nothing & all at once mini-traumas.”
You set the bar way too high in all areas at once, end up NOT following through, feel loads of shame and give up on those dreams way too fast. In your mind it feels like:
“If I don’t do all of it, I can’t do any of it.”
Let’s decide together to be Perfectly Imperfect
Feel like you’re doing a lot and producing a little? Here’s why…
Busy does not = productive time spent.
When you feel busy, like you’re doing a million things, you need to stop and assess how you’re actually spending your time. You will be surprised.
I want you to be the Royal Queen of your time and Energy, so you can create and live your most irresistible life.
Do you get frustrated with yourself because you can't stop putting more on your plate than you can manage, or you manage it all but you feel completely burnt out, or that you keep feeling dread about how busy and stressed you feel year after year?
Then you need to understand how the motivational triad works so that you can beat yourself up about this less, and understand with kindness how you can help you let go of the negative
Often times us buyaholics, busy ourselves because we just “DO” without thinking it through. We get so caught up in all of the tasks, or that new training, and that volunteer position that we don’t focus on the big picture.
Consider that what feels important today, is just a distraction from your true dreams and desires. If you examine your to-do list you'll find that some of the items don't even need to be done!
When you get to the end of your life would you rather have used your time to focus on your dreams, what it is that really matters to you, or on your to-do list? No brainer right?
Do you procrastinate? Do you get stuck in needing it all to be perfect, otherwise you don't do it at all, or you spend hours perfecting something that a B- quality of work would suffice? Do you have a to-do list a mile long, but can't seem to make much progress? Are you always coming up with great ideas, but have trouble following through on them? Do you find yourself exhausted at the end of the day, because you worried all day long that you should have been focusing your attention on what is important to you, and can't wait for the evening time when you can stop and relax?
If you're anything like I used to be, you won't like the sound of the word constraint. I'm gonna change your mind!
Every Thursday morning I go to my podcast feed looking forward to the next bit of wisdom I’m going to receive from one of my favorite coaches. Several months ago, I opened my feed to a podcast called “constraint”. And I closed my app and didn’t listen.
HI, MY NAME IS TIFFANY AND I'M A RECOVERING BUSYAHOLIC.
It started out innocently enough. I am an ambitious woman. Hey, don't judge, ambition gets a bad wrap. All it means is the desire to do or achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work. So, if you are reading this, chances are you are an ambitious woman too. For me what that means is, once I set my mind to something I make it happen. I love that about myself. However, this strength has also been one of my greatest weaknesses. Interesting how perceived weaknesses are just strengths over used.