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Loving Yourself Madly — A Daily Self-Affirming Practice

Loving Yourself Madly — A Daily Self-Affirming Practice

What would life be like if you loved yourself madly?

What would you do if you loved yourself madly?

The art of loving yourself fiercely can happen with a 5-minute exercise each morning. I challenge you to do it for a month and see the results that you get. It’s unbelievable the power of your mind. 

3 Secret Sauce Steps to Creating Just About Anything You Can Imagine!

3 Secret Sauce Steps to Creating Just About Anything You Can Imagine!

Self-affirmations are a little different than the mantras we did last week because they can tend to be more specific to what goals and dreams you are creating and working on. They are specifically designed to helped you manifest and attract those dreams. I’m gonna give you the 3 steps just below.

What’s the one thing you want more than anything right now? Let’s design you some crazy potent self-affirmations to get you there!

I use these tools with my clients who want to lose weight, make more money, be more organized, realize a long-lost dream, have a thriving work-life and a kick-ass lifestyle they're in love with and so much more!

Powerful Mantras to Create Self-Appreciation

Powerful Mantras to Create Self-Appreciation

The first step to self-appreciation is to identify and be mindful of your negative self-statements (as we talked about in the last post.)

The second step in self-appreciation is to start replacing those negatively affirming self-statements with intentional positive affirming mantras.

Guilt-Free Downtime

Guilt-Free Downtime

Are you feeling guilty for reading this because you are “supposed to be doing something else right now? “

If you answered yes, you may be guilty of blurring your downtime with thoughts about what you should be doing? 

The common thought I hear over and over is: “I should be doing something else.”

I know this seems like an innocent thing to think. But I've found it's one of the trickiest, undercover, joy stealing, time robbing, relationship ruining, and health risking thoughts you can have. 

It pretends to motivate, it falsely promises productivity. But it’s a total lie. It actually does the opposite. 

When you think, this thought over and over, eventually it will take over your time and your life and even if you have free time it will never feel like that because you won’t be present. You’ll be too busy being stressed about what you should be doing and you will resent all of the time in your life being about “having to get stuff done,” and this my friends will lead to a less productive and joyless life. I’ve been there. 

Best of Byron Katie

Best of Byron Katie

Have you ever felt like a stranger in a foreign land, or even in your own neck of the woods?

I've been in France for 8 months. It's interesting living in another country for so long and not speaking the language, ho hum... I'm taking French class by the way, but still struggling to speak. A lot of time I feel like maybe I came from another planet, maybe Venus, and landed smack dab in the middle of the French Riveria.

Try this 1 tactic this year, and be twice as productive

Try this 1 tactic this year, and be twice as productive

I know what you're thinking as you're reading this, you're wondering what it's about. Well, imagine if your problems could seemingly magically melt away. You could be at least twice as productive as you currently are, right? Let's talk about making this a year where you never lose time and productivity obsessing over a perceived problem in your life again.

Ready for more time, less stress, and more peace? I know I am. Let me explain...and make sure you use this tactic starting today. 

Energy Vampires? Get Your Secret Weapon Ready For the Holidays.

Energy Vampires? Get Your Secret Weapon Ready For the Holidays.

Do you think there is such a thing as people who are energy vampires? Not the Halloween kind of vampires, but people who suck the energy from you, exhaust you or make you want to close off?

We are right in the middle of Christmas celebrations, and New Year’s is just around the corner. The holidays can be such a busy time with family and loved ones. Bringing busy schedules, family dynamics, last minute preparations and rich food. There is an energetic exchange going on when we are around so many people and so many expectations. One that often, we don’t realize we have choice in. 

I Can't Be Sick. What Do I Do Now?

I Can't Be Sick. What Do I Do Now?

"I can't be sick. I should be working, and taking care of the house, the kids, my to-do list. I will get so behind this is going to be horrible."

If you are thinking these thoughts like most of us busyaholics are when we are sick, then you are right it will be horrible. How to be sick and feel good mentally is challenging but totally possible. It can actually be a time of reprieve even if you feel physically crummy. Take advantage of this pause on life.

People Pleasers are Liars. Do You Agree?

People Pleasers are Liars. Do You Agree?

“I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings and I don’t want people to be mad at me.”

Do you hear yourself thinking either of these thoughts at points in your day? I think of these as key indicators of People Pleasers. It sounds like such a good intention from the outside, not wanting to hurt feelings or make others mad, it sounds caring and like a good way to live.

But, here’s the deal, people pleasing is motivated by fear.

Who Makes You Feel Angry or Upset Regularly?

Who Makes You Feel Angry or Upset Regularly?

Think about what happens when someone makes you so angry. Such as, he was late when he said he’d be on time or she had a girls night and didn’t invite you or he didn’t pick up the groceries you asked him to pick up twice, etc.

You avoid them, snap at them, give them a piece of your mind, tell them it’s their fault, you take some action driven by your frustration. Your behavior is reasonable, right? I’m sorry, no, wrong.

Expecting another person to deal with your feelings is not you dealing with your own feelings.

Who Has the Power To Make You Happy?

Who Has the Power To Make You Happy?

Without realizing it, so many of us are putting expectations on someone else to make us happy. Most women I know struggle with this at some point or another in their lives. Whether it’s with their partner, best friend, child, the clerk at the grocery store, the guy who didn’t hold the door open for you, or the boss that didn’t give you the recognition you deserve, there is a tendency to put our ability to feel good in the hands of someone else.