When we’re angry, the goal really is to soothe ourselves, so let’s talk about it now while we’re not mad, so we can process it and be better prepared when we get riled up.
How to Singlehandedly Improve Any Relationship: Part 3, Feeling Anger
So how was your complaint-free week? Were you able to refrain from complaining? Did you notice any changes while your mind was open, but your mouth was shut? How are you feeling? Are you mad? I bet anything that you’re PISSED.
It may be tough to admit, but staying quiet, stuffing down those complaints, and “letting things go” probably made you mad. And you may still be mad! So what do we do with all that anger?
Sex & The City vs. Fear & Anger?
Are you afraid of being a doormat in your relationships?
If so, you are probably a good-hearted person who gives so much of yourself, your time and energy in your relationships. But many times, you feel resentful when you don’t get that in return. You might even feel like a doormat at times.
How the fire of anger and resentment take over the passion you once felt in your relationship
Anger and resentment can start to build, as you try and take care of your relationship as best you know how. You become over-scheduled, depleted and maybe even a little depressed. If this sounds familiar, you’ll relate to this vignette about Sarah’s experience and find that you can make positive changes, step by step, so that you can stop losing time feeling bad in your relationships and start feeling better and more in control today.
Who Makes You Feel Angry or Upset Regularly?
Think about what happens when someone makes you so angry. Such as, he was late when he said he’d be on time or she had a girls night and didn’t invite you or he didn’t pick up the groceries you asked him to pick up twice, etc.
You avoid them, snap at them, give them a piece of your mind, tell them it’s their fault, you take some action driven by your frustration. Your behavior is reasonable, right? I’m sorry, no, wrong.
Expecting another person to deal with your feelings is not you dealing with your own feelings.
