One of the great advantages of being a grown adult is that we can be and do (mostly) as we wish. We get to do whatever the heck we want! Trying to control others is futile. We each have free will, and we do NOT like it when people try to manipulate that! Which means if you’re trying to get someone to change so you can be happy, it’s not going to work. The secret to real happiness isn't found in getting others to change, but instead it's in allowing autonomy