Out of all of the things I can teach you this is definitely one of the tools, that crate the most freedom, make you the most money, and develop a legacy for your life that has the most meaning for you. Time and money are both mental contracts. So is time management. But time management is a useful construct for us to utilize because of the awareness that it brings to living your life on purpose and on your terms. Just like anything else outside of us, we cannot control time. But we can manage our minds around time- which will in turn help us-- quote unquote-- manage our time. The construct of time means nothing until we have a thought about it. 

We’ve all agree on the mental construct of time. 

“Just be in the present moment.”

How many times have you heard this? Before I learned to mediate it sounded like a good idea "to just be here now." But how? And “just?”

Everybody’s doing it— Meditation. Searching for Inner-Peace. High-Performance. Self-Actualization. Performance-Enhancement. Sounds good, no?

Have you noticed that all business gurus seem to meditate for 20-minutes a day now? Even on the show “Billion,” the two high-powered titans a ruthless U.S. district attorney in New York (Paul Giamatti) and an ambitious hedge fun billionaire (Damien Lewis) are shown meditating. I love the show! Check out the therapist-turned-success-coach character, Wendy. So much fun.

But how does this apply to you?

There are 7 tactics we commonly use to sabotage relationships. If you can identify with these and you desire a loving healthy relationships, it’s time to take a look at these and start to heal yourself. You deserve love in abundance, so let’s get to work!

Often, I see clients use the knowledge they start to understand about themselves— (or others even)— to define themselves, feel shame, loss of hope, worry or whatever your "go-to-thing" is. So you’re not allowed to do that ok?

Let’s say you get a diagnosis, or a label of some sort. Have you noticed how sometimes if you identify with it you end up feeling powerless over it?

So try not to over-identify with any of what I say here, but use it as a tool to help you decide HOW you WANT to think, feel and do the work required to grow beyond any relationship self-sabotage you might be engaged in. 

Sorry for the rude subject line. It’s kinda like when someone's blowing up your phone with texts while you are concentrating and finally after the 10th time you scream, “What do you want,” before you pick up the phone to see what small earth-shattering event has currently happened. 

But I meant it literally. And I wanted to get your attention. 

What do you want this year in your life, your relationships, in your business, in your bank account? Do you know?

Happy New Year by the way! In prepping my clients for their goals this year, I’ve been asking some thought-provoking questions, like:

If we meet in 1 year from today, in December 2019, what has to have happened for you to feel happy and excited about the overall progress you’ve made?

What about in 3 years from today, in December 2022

When anger is disavowed we get into all sorts of problems. I know you want healthy loving relationships and a rocking career that soars to new heights, so let’s sort this out together.  

Do you feel constantly in a state of annoyance and pissyness? Or do you know someone who is?  

This is a sign that you have disowned your anger.