I Don't Feel Like It

I Don't Feel Like It

It seems innocent enough. With all the things you have on that to-do list, why would you feel like doing another thing? Ever. Have you heard of “eat the frog?” Where you do the task you least want to do first in the day? It’s great in theory, depending on the mindset behind it. What I find with busyaholics is our list gets so big there’s nothing but frogs on it, and soon you find yourself on procrastination highway, with no destination in sight.

That’s what constant overwhelm will do. It’s your mind’s way of saying, “give me a break.” Go do something fun.

How To Use a Freedom Calendar To Get Your Ideal Body, Business, Love Life, and Lifestyle

How To Use a Freedom Calendar To Get Your Ideal Body, Business, Love Life, and Lifestyle

As a recovering busyaholic, the most important thing I can teach you is that structure, discipline, routine and productive-based habits will be the most freeing thing you’ll ever do. Gone are the days of waking up guessing at what you should be doing and beating yourself up for procrastinating the morning away. If you want to be truly successful, and I know you do, go grab your colored highlighters, crayons, and pencils and download the calendars provided here. We are going to plan out your year and it’s gonna be easy. 

Are You Unknowingly Sabotaging Your Relationships? Understanding two underlying reasons and what you can do about it

Are You Unknowingly Sabotaging Your Relationships? Understanding two underlying reasons and what you can do about it

Often, I see clients use the knowledge they start to understand about themselves— (or others even)— to define themselves, feel shame, loss of hope, worry or whatever your "go-to-thing" is. So you’re not allowed to do that ok?

Let’s say you get a diagnosis, or a label of some sort. Have you noticed how sometimes if you identify with it you end up feeling powerless over it?

So try not to over-identify with any of what I say here, but use it as a tool to help you decide HOW you WANT to think, feel and do the work required to grow beyond any relationship self-sabotage you might be engaged in. 

How to Get Out of the Habit of Self-Sabotage

How to Get Out of the Habit of Self-Sabotage

Last week I talked to you about creating ONE impossible goal for 2019. Did you do the assignment? I really hope so because it’ll change your life!  

When you have a BIG goal it becomes even more important to understand the spiral of self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage defined. It’s the act of creating unnecessary problems for one’s self that interfere with your own goals.

How to Make the Impossible Possible this Year

How to Make the Impossible Possible this Year

You’ve probably thought about several goals for the new year. But have you thought about the ONE BIG one? 

I wanna help you plan 2019 not by planning every area of your life, but by planning just ONE BIG impossible goal. That may sound counterintuitive.

Why would I set a goal that’s impossible? And why just ONE?

By making it unrealistic or impossible you short-circuit or trick your mind into being “ok” with failure because you already know it’s impossible. By committing to just ONE big goal you get to go all in and put your heart and soul into just one focus.

What do you WANT??? Get on the Future-Focused Train Today!

What do you WANT??? Get on the Future-Focused Train Today!

Sorry for the rude subject line. It’s kinda like when someone's blowing up your phone with texts while you are concentrating and finally after the 10th time you scream, “What do you want,” before you pick up the phone to see what small earth-shattering event has currently happened. 

But I meant it literally. And I wanted to get your attention. 

What do you want this year in your life, your relationships, in your business, in your bank account? Do you know?

Happy New Year by the way! In prepping my clients for their goals this year, I’ve been asking some thought-provoking questions, like:

If we meet in 1 year from today, in December 2019, what has to have happened for you to feel happy and excited about the overall progress you’ve made?


What about in 3 years from today, in December 2022

Why Being Past-Focused is Never a Good Idea

Why Being Past-Focused is Never a Good Idea

How do you interpret your past? 

Your past is anything that’s happened up until this very moment. Be clear that all the things you’ve EVER done or not done is what you’ll use to define who you are.  

So, as this year wraps up. I wanted to help you say goodbye to the past you, the parts you didn’t like, in order to get focused on what you want to create in the New Year.  

It’s important to have rituals that support you when there’s a marker in time, so you can look at this last year and how you can learn from it, make adjustments, and move on. Please don’t dwell on what you aren’t happy about. That just won’t serve you and there’s no need to bring that into the New Year into the new you.  

These skills I will teach you here are important because you’ll learn how to define yourself by your future, instead of your past. 

The next few writings you’ll receive from me are going to get you ready to have the best year of your life so far. So keep reading and stay tuned for next week.

Saying Goodbye

Saying Goodbye

When you say goodbyes, you say hello to the new. 

As an entrepreneur in the healing profession and a woman looking to balance work, love and self-care. It becomes vitally important to your overall health that you learn how to say goodbye.

It’s especially a good at time as 2018 wraps up to think about how you can become more DELIBERATE, more FOCUSED in the coming year on what is ESSENTIAL to you and allow yourself to say goodbye to the unimportant things that busy you, take up your time, and cause your work and relationships with yourself and others to suffer. That’s what I call radical self-care.

How to Transform Anger Into True Empowerment

How to Transform Anger Into True Empowerment

Have you ever wondered why we hate our anger so much? Or why it is that we can be so afraid of being angry?  

Anger is one of our basic emotions but anger can be a tricky emotion for many reasons.  

First of all, most of us were socialized that being angry was very un-ladylike. It was not readily accepted or encouraged and even frowned upon in the societies or the families that we grew up in.  

How many people do you know that have a healthy expression of anger?  

Probably not too many right? Why is that?  

What’s a Boundary Anyway? Know When To Set a Boundary + How To Do It From Love

What’s a Boundary Anyway? Know When To Set a Boundary + How To Do It From Love

What’s a boundary anyway?

Holiday season is among us a I can't think of a better time to talk about the importance of boundaries. A boundary is something that you set when there's been a boundary violation.

What's a boundary violation?

A boundary violation happens when someone comes into your emotional or physical space in a way that’s inappropriate. Then you need to do the work of setting a boundary for yourself.

You get to decide what's "inappropriate" for you.

The boundary is actually what you will do if someone violates you.

Love, Lovability, Family Triggers, and Turkey Day

Love, Lovability, Family Triggers, and Turkey Day

A lot of my work with clients around this time is about helping them to prep themselves to deal with family in ways that create feelings of love and peace inside — instead of mild-to-extreme angst & dread and the typical emotional hangover that lasts about a week. Have you been there? I think we all have.  

Family is a beautiful thing, but it can also be a source of emotional pain for a lot us. It’s normal. Everybody's got a little drama somewhere in their family system and that’s ok.  

Nothing’s wrong with you and it doesn’t need to be a source of shame or other terrible negative emotions either. There is another way. 

Together we’ll map out an emotional strategy for the holidays! 

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Fact vs. Story = Miserable vs. Happy

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Fact vs. Story = Miserable vs. Happy

Did you know that you can create your own unhappiness by how you choose to interpret the facts of your life?  

The next time you feel like crap, separate out the facts from the story. I promise using this technique will make you happier immediately. Who doesn’t want some happy?  

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What Do You Want to Use Your Life For? Knowing This Will Help You Make More Time.

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What Do You Want to Use Your Life For? Knowing This Will Help You Make More Time.

It’s a big question right? What do you want to use your life for? 

When it comes to making more time in your life you really must answer this question for yourself.  

The reason this is important is that when you know what you want to use your life for, you can live intentionally. What's the point in teaching you how to make more time in your life to make more money, have loving relationships and a lifestyle that rocks if you don’t know what to do with that extra time? 

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Don't Waste One More Minute When Your Brain Tells You, "You Can't Do Hard Things". It's a Lie.

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Don't Waste One More Minute When Your Brain Tells You, "You Can't Do Hard Things". It's a Lie.

First things first, if you have been secretly worried that you may be incompetent that’s not it. That thought is a brain error! Repeat brain error! 

It’s not your fault that you keep starting and stopping or get into full-blown freeze mode when you try new or hard things, it’s your brain’s fault.  

Your brain is well-intentioned. Your brain's wired to protect you from danger. It doesn't want you to try new or hard things. It thinks you could die. It's programmed to protect you from being eaten by the next wild animal that comes around. It tries to conserve your energy at every turn in case of an emergency. But last time I looked no wild animal was out to get us anymore. Unless you are vacationing somewhere exotic and get lost from the crowd. This used to be a good thing because it kept our species going and allowed us to survive. But now it doesn’t serve us.  

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If You Didn’t Say “I Don’t Know” How Would Your Life Be Better?

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If You Didn’t Say “I Don’t Know” How Would Your Life Be Better?

How often do you hear yourself say “I don’t know,” either out loud or in your head? So many of us do right? But it stops us from accessing the wisdom that you have within. When I heard the concept that we all have the answers within us, I felt annoyed 😠. I initially thought, if I had all the answers then my life would be easy. But having the answer doesn’t = easier. But it does = you having a pretty darn good shot at making your dreams a reality. Without the confusion, you can bask in the sunshine of clarity and not the clouds and thunderous storms of angst. It’s so easy to have all the right answers for everyone else right, your best friend, your partner, your family? So why's it so hard to do that same thing for yourself? Because confusion, the kind we’ve been indulging in for a long time, gets you stuck in a labyrinth of "I don’t know’s,” with no end goal in sight. 

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6 Steps to Beat Procrastination & a Little Technique Called NET

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6 Steps to Beat Procrastination & a Little Technique Called NET

I fell off the wagon again… the procrastination wagon that is.  

I’m in Brussels for the first time right now doing my re-certification as a practitioner of Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET). I’m excited to be here for the next 3 days and visit the city. So far all I know is that Belgium's home to the best french fries in the world, ridiculously delicious Belgium chocolates & waffles, and that you must see a statue called the Manneue Pis (according to my NET buddy who’s from here). No one can tell me why this statue is popular here, but just that “everyone goes.”  

Ok so I didn’t see Manneue Pis, but I did see Jeanneke Pis. AND I want to confirm that yes I tried the fries and they were fantastic. Big deal coming from an American, no?  

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4 Ways to Love What You Have (Relationships, Jobs, Etc.)

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4 Ways to Love What You Have (Relationships, Jobs, Etc.)

You have the option to feel any way you want at any time. Your thoughts cause your feelings, and thoughts are optional.  

You need to know this. You always have the option to feel however you choose to feel. This is always available to you. Sometimes we choose to feel sad and angry and frustrated, and that's fine. That's our choice. We can choose to feel however we want, but you have to know and remember that it is always a choice. Your choice.  

It's when we start to believe that how we feel isn't a choice that we get ourselves into trouble. We leave jobs and relationships we think we dislike only to find ourselves in a similar situation because we don’t realize this fact that we get to choose our emotions.  

How and why you should love your job before you leave it.

How and why you should love your job before you leave it.

I’ve got something radical to tell you today and it’s unconventional wisdom, but a true solution to job confusion.

Why you should love your job before you go…

Lately, I’ve had a lot of questions from my busyaholics who’re feeling a bit tortured and a lot dissatisfied in their jobs. The questions that’ve been coming up are deep and scary having to do with security, safety and the meaning and purpose of life.