The 9 Essential Steps to Making Your Dreams a Reality

9 Essential Tips to Making Your Dreams a Reality

Your dreams matter! Watch this video and find out how goal setting can help you turn your dreams into a reality.

For easy reference, I’ve listed the 9 tips again here:

  1. Write your goal, dreams and desire down! Get a special journal specifically for your dreams and goals. Sometimes it helps to organize your goals into life categories such as physical, spiritual, relational, intellectual, environmental, and occupational. Vision boards can serve as visual affirmations of your goals, and can be fun and get the creative juices flowing. The objective here is to get your dreams for yourself out of your mind and into something more concrete.
  2. Start to take small steps towards your big dreams. It really helps to break your goals up into manageable action steps. You may need to trouble shoot along the way, if something is not working. Don’t allow setbacks to stop you, try it differently.
  3. Start Right Away – even if you do just one thing to move you in the direction of your dreams. Small turtle steps go along way if you do one each day.
  4.  Prioritize your goals to help you stay focused. What is the most important dream you want to move towards right now? Get started on that one. Gain momentum, it helps to keep us motivated.
  5.  Pick an end date! This one is important. Choose the date you would like to make this dream a reality for yourself. It can be a long or short-term goal. You get to decide!
  6. Read over your list of goals at least 2 times a day. It is helpful to read them first thing when you wake up in the morning, and before you go to sleep at night. This helps your brain and memory to stay active and keeps these goals at the forefront of your mind, helping you to stay focused.
  7. Visualize yourself achieving your dream(s). Spend some time daydreaming about how your life will look, feel, sound, smell, and even taste like when you are living your dream.
  8. Live and act as if this goal or dream has already come true. If it seems to hard to do this all the time, try it out for a day. Experiment and see how wonderful it feels to take on that essence.
  9. Seek out professional help if you get stuck. All of us get stuck sometimes and it’s ok to allow others to help us move into more happiness. You deserve it. We all do. Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET) can be highly beneficial to help us get congruent with our goals.

 I can help you unblock your path and get congruent with your goals and dreams. Getting what you want can actually be scary sometimes, so let’s clear those fears away if need be, and get ready to accept what it is that you want in life.

Contact me HERE if you get stuck, and let’s set up a time for a free 20-minute phone consultation.

If you want to get a jumpstart on your manifesting your dreams come join me and an amazing group of women for the Find Your Flourish Retreat in the South of France, coming up September 27-October 3rd, 2015. Registration deadline is August 16, 2015. There are just a few spots left. You don't want to miss this retreat! Hurry and contact me here to set up an interview! Your dreams are awaiting you.  

Tiffany Goyer provides psychotherapy, counseling, coaching, retreats, and workshops from her base office in Sherman Oaks right in Los Angeles County. She also provides phone and Skype session to women around the globe. 

The 4 Most Powerful Travel Lessons For Women

The 4 most powerful lessons women learn when they travel. 

Travel Opens the Mind

Travel has a way of opening up our minds so that we can begin to see and remember that anything is possible. When we try something new, our brain changes as we form new neuropathways, or new ways of thinking

Remembering that Anything is Possible

We get so caught up in the busyness of our lives and our daily routines, that we can lose touch with what makes us happy. We may get stuck in the story of our lives, the ones that we tell ourselves over and over again. We don’t do this on purpose, it is just how the brain works.  It’s out of habit. As children, we know anything is possible, but as we become adults, we forget this truth. Travel is the best way to shake things up so we can reconnect with what really matters to us like maybe a long forgotten goal, or a part of ourselves we would like to develop.

So here are the 4 most important travel lessons for women to learn:

  1. We learn perspective on life! Because everything is new when you travel, you have to think in different ways than you do when you are at home.  You have the opportunity to view your life from the outside. You will probably identify solutions or changes to make your life back home easier, one which you might never have seen if you did not away from it all. Imagine getting to press the pause button on your life, so that you can open up to new possibilities.
  2.  Travel allows you time to recharge, renew, and replenish your soul, and re-connect with what really matters to you. In a new environment, you are afforded the opportunity to ponder your dreams, your goals, you desires. What do you want your life to look like and feel like? When we get away from it all, we can get bold, brave, and inspired, and remember to dream big.
  3.  You gain a new sense of confidence. When you travel you HAVE to try new things such as new foods, figuring out new means of transportation, perhaps new languages, and encountering lots of new people. All this newness that travel bring can be exciting. It awakens all of your senses.
  4.  Gratitude! One of my favorites. Travel helps you feel grateful for your life. When you step out of your daily routines and roles, you just may find that you appreciate yourself, your loved ones, and your life back home in a new way that you may not have been able to do if you did not get away from it all. Lastly, you start to appreciate your new way of thinking, for now you see all of the new possibilities for your life that travel has opened you up to.  

Travel if you want to transform your life right now!

You are invited to journey with me and a fabulous group of like-minded women to the South of France. The Find Your Flourish France Retreat is 9/27/15-10/3/15. Come find your Flourish and remember that anything is possible. The registration deadline is August 16, 2015, so contact me here to set up an interview.  

Tiffany Goyer provides therapy. coaching, retreats, and workshops from her base office in Sherman Oaks right in Los Angeles County. She also provides phone and Skype sessions to women around the globe.

When Amazing Women Speak Panel HD

Earlier this year, I was invited to be a guest speaker at Marsh Engle's Amazing Women Speak Event. She asked us about the 6 essential questions every woman needs to ask herself. Check out the video to get inspired. My answer to one of her questions was about a defining moment for me, which I've expanded upon in this post >>

This was the day that I excitedly announced my women's France retreat!

Ready to Find Your Flourish in the South of France? It's not too late to join us for the Find Your Flourish France Retreat coming up September 27-October 3rd 2015. Registration deadline is August 16, 2015. There are just a few spots left. You don't want to miss this retreat! Hurry and contact me here to set up an interview! Your dreams are awaiting you.  

Tiffany Goyer provides therapy, coaching, retreats, and workshops from her base office in Sherman Oaks right in Los Angeles County. She also provides phone and Skype session to women around the globe. 

 

Follow Your Passions and Not your Fears

Follow Your Passions and Not your Fears

FOLLOW YOUR PASSIONS NOT YOUR FEARS
DO YOU INCORPORATE WHAT YOU LOVE INTO YOUR WORK?

My recent guest blog on Psych Central got me thinking that I needed to share these concepts with you too! Click here to read, or below.

It seems that too many of us are on the verge of burnout. But I bet we could remedy that with some large doses of self-care, and by incorporating more of what we are truly passionate about into our day-to-day work lives? This may take a little thinking outside of the box...which usually means facing our fears. I know because it did for me. 

LAST YEAR, I DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING PRETTY RADICAL. 

I started the Find Your Flourish Movement and Retreats for Women. I am blending my passions for talk therapy, coaching, yoga, breath work, meditation, Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET), and travel to help women transform their lives. This multi-faceted approach to my worklove (not a typo) has been invigorating because I am passionate in helping people on a mind-body-spirit level.

And, on September 27th, 2015, I have the immense honor and pleasure of taking a group of amazing women to the South of France for the Find Your Flourish France Retreat! A dream come true. If this sounds like fun, it's because it will be...why not join us? But I digress... 

Why You Should Retreat in the South of France!

Why You Should Retreat in the South of France!

 

WHY YOU SHOULD RETREAT IN THE SOUTH OF FRANCE! 

WHY RETREAT, SHE ASKS?

What is the greater purpose of your life? What brings you happiness and fulfillment? How does your flourishing impact your loved ones?

This can be a hard question to answer in the midst of our own personal daily grind. We need to learn how to press the PAUSE BUTTON (where is it again?), and reconnect with what REALLY matters to us. The fastest way I know how to facilitate your connection to your deepest dreams and desires, is by taking time to retreat.

Despite what the little voices in our heads tell us, it is not selfish to have dreams and desires, or to follow your desired path. Actually, it’s just the opposite. When you live from a place of being connected to your authentic core – when you are happy and fulfilled – everyone around you benefits.

Think about it. Pause...

8 Ways Travel Heals!

8 Ways Travel Heals!

8 Ways Travel Heals!

To create the life that you were meant to live, sometimes you need to get away from it all. I want to help you create a new perspective of yourself and your life, and the best way I know how to do that is travel. 

Travel heals by helping us to:

  1. fall in love with life again.
  2. appreciate who we are, away from our daily routine.
  3. appreciate the life we do have at home.

How R&R Can Help You Find Your Flourish: 6 Ways to Jumpstart your Self-Care

How R&R Can Help You Find Your Flourish: 6 Ways to Jumpstart your Self-Care

Rest and Relaxation are crucial components to a happy, healthy, flourishing life. We need time to press the pause button on our busy lives, so that we can replenish our energy, rest our body and mind, and renew our passions.

Listen to my interview here about the importance of R&R, the Find Your Flourish Movement and how to stay connected to your dreams and desires. 

Many of us go along with the busyness of life, and get so far off track that we wake up and wonder, “How the heck did I get here?” Or, we become burned out and stressed to the max and can even become physically ill, or experience anxiety and depression. Let’s not go down that path if we can help it.

What I've Learned in 15 years as a Psychotherapist

What I've Learned in 15 years as a Psychotherapist

What I've Learned in the almost 15 years of being a Psychotherapist and How the Find Your Flourish Movement Came About

5 crucial questions every woman needs to ask herself:

1.    Are you living your life from a place of truth?

2.    Do you know what your life’s purpose is? Are you fulfilling your life’s purpose?

3.    Do you have dreams and desires that you have forgotten about, or let fall by the wayside?

4.    Do you have a tendency to put other’s needs before your own, and feel burned out, lost and frustrated in work and love?

5.    Do you long for more meaning in your life?

If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions, read on, I can help you. I’m committed to a world where women never forget that their dreams truly matter.

The greatest gem I’ve learned over the last almost 15 years of being a psychotherapist is that true transformation can really take place when we integrate healing on the levels of mind, body, and spirit.

Why 90% of Women I Meet Need a Retreat

Someone challenged me recently to share why I am so passionate about providing retreats locally in Los Angeles, and internationally around the world. Taking a group of 12 women to the South of France this September 2015 is a labor of love for me. I wanted to share with you my deeper "why." Will you take 5 minutes and watch? Comment below if you believe women need to get away and get things in balance. 

Why Los Angeles Women Need Retreats

LIVE THE STORY YOU WERE MEANT TO LIVE:

LIVE THE STORY YOU WERE MEANT TO LIVE:

Can you relate to what it feels like to be “stuck?” This word is so common in psychology now, that it’s practically become a “clinical” term. But, for good reason, “stuck,” explains a lot about the human experience.

Think of your life. I bet there is at least one or more areas that you feel stuck in, be it in your relationships, your work, your finances, your health, etc., etc.

Being stuck is a great metaphor for what is actually happening in the brain. We become stuck on certain neural pathways, causing us to loop through old stories about our lives. Sometimes it feels near impossible hop off these old story loops, or neural pathways to affect change in our lives. But it is possible to more easily create healthier stories, and more joyful beliefs and feelings that will help you find your flourish in life.   

Let Go of Fear & Feel Irresistible to Yourself this Valentine's Day: Top Six ways Yoga Heals

Let Go of Fear & Feel Irresistible to Yourself this Valentine's Day: Top Six ways Yoga Heals

Do you find yourself feeling anxious, keyed up, battling that inner critic, having a difficult time making decisions, and/or feeling like you aren’t on the “right” life path?  Yoga can help.

Yoga is a great way to jumpstart your own healing journey. Healing never means the damage never existed, it just means that it no longer controls our lives.  Amen sister! Or as we say in Kundalini Yoga, Wahe Guru! -- (Meaning how AWE-mazing it is to go from darkness to light)!

I’ve worked with many over-giving, well-intentioned women who push through their body’s signals to slow down and rest, OR move and shake. There are so many demands on women these days to be everything to everybody. It’s easy to try and sweep our emotions under the proverbial rug, AND ignore our body’s signals, especially when our society values the "go, go, go" attitude toward life. Today, in my work with women and couples, I am passionate about sharing the key ingredients for creating long lasting health and wellness in body, mind AND spirit. I not only use talk therapy and traditional coaching techniques to help clients, I also use breath-work (pranayama), meditation, and gentle yoga movements to help clients reconnect their mind and bodies to reduce anxiety and stress, to increase confidence and wellness, and to help illuminate the sense of one’s “right” life path and clarity of mind. I also lead workshops and retreats to help heal the mind-body connection, so that my clients can truly flourish in life.

A Small Dose of Holiday Zen

A Small Dose of Holiday Zen

Are you feeling overwhelmed, and dissatisfied with the results of all of the work you are putting in to make the holidays joyful for everyone else? Let’s get a tiny bit closer to being Zen about the holidays. Can I get an Ommmmm... lol, but seriously, there is much wisdom to be received from this concept. Zen in defined in the Urban dictionary to mean, “a total state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind. Zen is a way of being. It also is a state of mind. Zen involves dropping illusion and seeing things without distortion created by your own thoughts.”

What a shrink wants you to know about your body

What a shrink wants you to know about your body

Yoga is the practice of creating unity between mind and body. When there's a disconnect between mind and body, our lives become unbalanced, causing stress, fatigue and ultimately, illness. The reverse can happen when you reunite your mind and body through yoga. Your mind and your body can start to heal naturally, helping you to feel healthier, happier, more balanced, and more alive!

I discovered yoga through my own health crisis. During my internship to become a psychotherapist, my life became so stressful and unbalanced (working 80 hours a week with severely traumatized children and families) that my body actually broke down. This was a scary time for me…  After all, I was in the healing profession.  How could I have allowed this to happen to me, didn’t I know better?  Maybe not… This experience was a difficult way to learn that I needed to be kinder to my body. Unfortunately, our society does not always support this mind body connection, but separates the two, causing confusion, disharmony, and distress.