"But it's my husband's job to clean up the dog poop and take out the garage!" Is this part of your manual for your partner too?
A "manual," is a list of expectations you have for your most prized relationships.
People don't come with instruction manuals like new T.V.'s. But you probably don't realize you've got a "manual" for just about everyone in your life. Some manuals are pretty hefty. I know I've had a few that were too heavy to lift on my own.
Get to know you manuals well and don't get too attached to them.
It's awesome to realize you've got a set of "manuals," because then you get to choose not to let them weigh you down. This may sound crazy at first, but when you let go of your manual you'll feel empowered!